Coparenting can suck. But it doesn’t have to.
It can be so easy to be filled with so many negative emotions and thoughts. Does any of this sound familiar?
You question how you can possibly work with this person
You worry about how coparenting will impact your kids
You are angry, mad, anxious and just plan upset about how things are going with your coparent
You feel held back or tied down because of your coparent
I get it. I lived there for more than 5 years and they were some of the hardest years of my life. But then I asked myself a question: what if this didn’t have to suck?
I spent years working on this, and I found a way not only for it to not suck, but to actually create peace in my life. And I want to share that with you!
The Modern Coparent Course is designed to help find peace in yourself. And that peace leads you to being able to be a better parent, a better partner, and a better coparent. Best of all - that peace allows you to be free from all of the negative thoughts and emotions you’ve been having around coparenting!
What’s included in the course?
Weekly Content: Designed to take you through a process that will create lasting peace, and give you the tools to handle things that come up in the future. Learning about how we think, how we see the world, and most importantly how we can change our thinking is KEY to creating peace!
Weekly Exercises: Weekly exercises are provide to really drive home the concepts. Learning these concepts is one thing - but LIVING them is a different matter altogether. These weekly exercises give you the information you need to integrate these concepts into how you live.
Access to Weekly “Office Hours”: Have a question you want to ask me? I’ll be on Zoom every week and you can join me to ask question, discuss progress, and get coached!
Q&A Bank: Sometimes you don’t want to wait until the next Office Hours session! You can send questions for Scott will answer on video and post it to the Q&A Bank. You will have access to the answers to your questions, plus all of the other answers that have been recorded!
You don’t have to suffer with coparenting.
Let’s face it - there are not a lot of super positive coparenting situations out there. That’s where Modern Coparent I comes in. Modern Coparent I is all about taking control over your own thoughts and emotions - so you can live the life you want to, regardless of what your coparent is doing!
We have all seen situations where coparents fight and struggle with each other for YEARS! (Maybe even your own parents did this!) The fact is that no one gets divorced to live a life-long struggle. Modern Coparent helps you learn how to find peace for yourself - and that peace will have a massive impact on how you feel, how you parent, and how you relate to your coparent.
So many of us wait around for our coparent to change - but that is putting our wellbeing, our ability to create peace into their hands. Modern Coparent allows you to create peace for yourself - NOW - instead of waiting for them to change (which, let’s be honest: may never happen).
This isn’t your parent’s coparenting!
Hi! I’m Scott
I got divorced over 12 years ago. And the first five years were ROUGH - full of anger, resentment, anxiety - it felt like a constant source of stress. Back then, I felt like my life as I knew it wasn’t totally mine, my coparent was living in my head rent free.
Even though I wasn’t around my coparent all the time - it felt like they were ALWAYS in my head. Every decision I made, every time I made plans, every time I thought about my daughter - my anger and anxiety over coparenting popped up and stole any sense of happiness I had.
I just kept swirling around and around and around these thoughts. And it was awful.
Eventually I had a realization: I recognized that all this pain I was feeling was not because of my coparent, but it was because of my thoughts and stories around my coparent. Subtle difference, but it changes everything! I spent years researching how to change my thoughts and stories, and I have coached thousands of people to shift their thinking too!
I know this all may sound impossible (believe me if you told me 10 years ago that I’d be writing this now I would have thought you were nuts!), but the reality is…Peace is possible.
Peace IS possible
(even if your coparent isn’t on board)
This is probably one of the biggest questions I get. It usually sounds something like “Scott - you don’t understand how much of an (expletive of choice) my coparent is! How is it possible to create peace with that?!?”
I get it. There’s a good chance that from where you’re sitting now, peace doesn’t seem even remotely possible. And that makes sense - you’ve been through a lot with this person, and it can be incredibly difficult to see how you could possibly change that.
But it IS possible - let me use an analogy:
Have you ever had the experience of sitting with a friend, watching a movie, and you love it - while they hate it? It’s a strange thing: you both saw the same movie, ate the same popcorn, and yet had totally different experiences! What’s going on there?
What’s happening is that you and your friend have different thoughts and stories you brought into the movie, and those thoughts and stories act like a filter. Your filter led you to enjoy the movie, while your friends filter led them to hating it.
That is a simple (and maybe silly?) example, but this same thing is happening everywhere in your life. You are taking in information - about the world, about your kids, about your coparent - and running it through the filters in your mind.
Those filters are built up through years of experience: experience with your coparent and kids, experience in your family of origin, and the experience of being a human. All of this has led you to where you are now and built the thinking and feeling patterns that are your filters.
Modern Coparent is built to help you change that! The process is about understanding those filters and asking if they actually serve you - and changing them if they don’t! Modern Coparent I gives you tools to work with the things you control - how you think and how you feel - to create peace in your life.
Hear what others have to say about Modern Coparent:
I was struggling with my coparent’s anxiety, obsessive nature and need to control. Even the sound of a text from him could boil my blood. I dreaded any communication and dreamed of the day I would get to stop dealing with him. This was not a very peaceful existence for me. Scott was able to shift my experience, quite rapidly. He gave me tools to regain my sense of peace and feel in control of how I got to go forward with the coparenting situation. I highly recommend his course, if you want more for yourself and your children.
-Danielle
This course is a must! Divorce is hard, co-parenting is hard. Scott’s approach has helped stop my spiraling thoughts regarding my co-parent and has helped create peace within myself as I deal with him. This has enabled me to have better conversations with my co-parent, compassion for him and for myself, and less stress overall regarding our communication and co-parenting relationship. Don’t even question whether or not this will help you. It will. Sign up now, this will make a difference!
-Julie
I never thought I would look forward to an hour a week speaking about my co-parent! Scott has worked wonders with his forward-thinking, science-based and fun approach to shifting my perspectives when managing the relationship with a (potentially) challenging co-parent. In doing this he has increased my level of peace and calmness, which has positively affected my children and my environment…I love that this course requires only one parent (not both) in order to improve the relationship.
-Collette
The intro course with Modern Coparent couldn't have come at a better time. I had gotten to the point where I couldn't even hear the text notification without feeling stress ... heart racing... mind wandering... what, pray tell, would be the next chapter of nonsense I would have to deal with? … If you want a little more peace in the journey, I highly recommend this class. You might be thinking how could I possibly improve this relationship if the other person isn't there? Well, you can. And it's about drops, not gallons. Scott's teaching style is informative, encouraging and practical. And, I have also been able to apply what I learned to other relationships as well. Hope you get as much out of it as I did. Be well!
-Kristie
Frequently Asked Questions
Does my coparent need to do this with me?
No! It only takes one person in a relationship to make a huge difference. There is no need to have your coparent join you.
How much time does this take every week - I’m busy!
I totally get it! Course videos are between 5 and 15 minutes long each week, and Office Hours are 60 minutes. This course is designed to fit into a busy schedule!
What if I don’t like the program?
You are able to cancel at any time for a pro-rated refund.
Where is the course hosted?
The Modern Coparent Community is on a private platform (as in NOT Facebook or any other public social media site).
Have a question that’s not covered here?
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